Dear LIB readers; Men need to be more open about their income with their wives
From a male LIB reader
My friend got married 3 years ago. Last weekend we were gisting about family life and he told me that his wife knows what his monthly income is and every other bulk payments he gets from work.
I asked him if he thought it was a good idea. His reason is that he does it to have peace of mind. That his wife has never asked him for what he cannot afford to give her.
After a deep thought I decided to do the same.
So last Monday night I called my wife and showed her my recent letter of emolument and explained how our income comes monthly. She looked at me in disbelief and wondered what had happened to me.
This morning she presented me with a revised list of this month's expenses and Linda... for the first time since we got married I didn't complain.
This is just to say that all men should try and be honest with their wives and forget pride. .. I cannot imagine what my savings will be by the end if this year.
she's an ardent reader of your blog and I'm sure she will know I sent this story. .. but I don't mind.. my love for her just added another level.
Chai. That's good. When your wife knows what you earn then she will be able to spend according to your budget and help you save too.. It's a very good way to save family problems caused by finances or lack of it. Nice one
Men are the ones giving themselves headache.No sensible woman will nag,or demand too much when she knows the earning power of her spouse.Women can be very understanding when you show them you trust them & their opinion of you matters!
So long as the bills are paid and feeding allowance is given to her every month, what else does she need to know? If she likes she can write list till she's blue in the face, what you "say" you can afford is what you can afford. You're the man of the house, the bread winner, the one who swings big d*ck, the trouser wearer and what you say goes. P#ssy ass n#ggas!
Men only tell when they earn a miserly amount...but when they earn big sum,they never ever tell or they divide the amount into two and lie to their wife so she wouldn't know he is using the rest to settle side chic. Umu nwoke na aghugho! Poster,don't worry...when u start earning frm 500k upwards let's see if u will still be honest and truthful.
These men should coman read this...but I think these men need to understand it first. "Wisdom is the principal thing and in all getting, get understanding."
When I got married to my wife, the first thing I did was to tell her how much I earn every month and every other side money that rolls in as day go by. To be honest, I just feel it's not really a good idea, going by what I experience with time. I just noticed that any time money comes in, the list would be increased and ma woman is not very prudent with resources so I have just decided not to put her her in the knowing of my income anymore shekina.
It's a nice thing to be done in a marriage since two has become one. I can only imagine the relief you're experiencing now. I hope every couple can be transparent in their marriage to save them from unnecessary pressures especially financial pressures.
Hmmm I will think abouut itif I could do the same linda take note juliet tell her .....@ Babangida vickira did u hear let's practice dat lolso take note.....
Most guys believe if they tell their wife how much they earn she will squander it but a wife is the first financial manager and she wants the best for her home. I have been honest with finances to my wife and i have never regret it. moreover been faithful and honest to one another in marriage doesn't have to do with sex alone in fact i believe financial faithfulness is even more important in a marriage. I am sure a lot of guys who cheat on their wife will not agree because they wont be able to explain all their spending on the side chic. cheating is not only sexually, money is important and our partner should be involve in that that is very important.
Marriage is all about openness and sincerity, My fiancee knows how much i earn, I show her my payslip every month. It really helps my dear. I know her own too. It helps in planning, she wouldnt ask me what she knows i cant afford because i have to plan with her too. I am also involve this Co-operative society too even up until PFA plans and Insurance that i am into. Wetin dey for this life sef? Good move man! Her love for you too has also increased.
To an extent, its good. But sometimes, women will tend to begin to monitor expenses. They'd quickly become mathematicians, always multiplying and adding with respect to their needs only, forgetting the man has needs too. By month end, they are quick to calculate your balance and expect it to be exactly what you should have and if it isnt, there's a fresh issue to resolve. Though there are reasonable, matured women who would act otherwise...but its still good. The men should just do it with wisdom!
Yea, you are right. Being open is always the best. It puts your mind at rest because you dont have to worry over whether you she sees your pay cheque or not. Plus she is now also operating with a more sincere heart too because she obviously now sees why she should be more courteous and support the family as a whole.Love all the way>>>>
Linda e hard. my wife knows my income but a tell u e no easy ohhh. if u give out cash to someone in need and she does not like it na wahala particularly if she is not in good terms with that person. women turn to control alot when they know their husband income. the funny part is she even hide her own from me. meaning husband moni na for family wife own na for her self and her family. hmmmmm
Naaaa. The Good Lord knows that Z will always pull some 'Ananias' on her. Gotta hide somethin 4 extracurricular activities/miscellaneous expenditures especially with the Boys 2 Men.
Naaaa. The Good Lord knows that Z will always pull some 'Ananias' on her. Gotta hide somethin 4 extracurricular activities/miscellaneous expenditures especially with the Boys 2 Men.
True. Most men lie through everything meanwhile they are skimmers looking for prey (or borrow borrow). There are still decent ladies who understands the need to support their man and curtail there expenses. You guys should give it a try and where you have enough to spend, shower your wife/girlfriend with lots and lots of gifts.
Marriage.... Hmmm i believe both spouse should be open about everythg including finances. You areon a journey together.... Bulk shoes, bags, accessories gor ladies for sale. Email shoewarehousenigeria@gmail.com for inquiries.
Two shall come together and become one- that's the essence of marriage. You are one and the same person. There's no sense in hiding something from yourself
Just cos u found a good wife doesn't mean everyone will find a good wife. Some women r evil the minute u let em know that minute ur suffering begins. Pls yall should stop giving general advice biko. It won't work for everyone just cos it worked for you
Nope!! That's the worst thing a guy can do. May be when u don't have much u can be more open but when u are very rich, don't dare it. The would make sure the finish.and suck.u. Just make sure u provide all the need that's all.
I Totally agree with this. Its very important for couples to be open to each other financially. It has really helped me in my home, I and my wife never argue about money or expenses cause she knows about every kobo I get and spend, and I know hers too.
lolz..I know what my husband gets monthly cos I follow up on his alert even though he tries hiding the balance from me for d reasons known to him, he his a saver and likes to save for big project while I am a spender, and I don't demand from him anyhow jus cos I saw his income. But to cover up for my spending,i cover up for many house expenses.. nd to have some savings from myself I boost up his own savings..lolz
Awwwww.so swt.its d truth.wen u try to hide ur income d woman will fink d moni is so huge dts y ur hidin buh if she knws hw much exactly,she won't boda u much on cash issues cos she wil def wnt u to save for d future.in general both male and females shuld b open abt deir income especially if dey r married.my opinion though
When some men start to misleading others, what work for you can not work for others, man just wait till december season clouths reach or your father or mother inlaws are in needs of money, we dey wait
Only poor men can be sucked dry by women, which woman can suck Dangote,Adenuga and d likes of them down? If u dey earn #2m monthly my brother na church rat u still be so its easy for a woman to milk u dry.
Well it depends on individuals, most times if a man opens up to d wife on side of income it brings problem most especially whn d man cld nt meet up with d demands from d side of d wife's family bc most women are self centered whn it comes to dt they will forget dt d man has his own family as well........ i know my hubby's income and we understands ourselves.period
I agree o my brother.... My wife knows everything and I know hers and the way we plan for stuff together is on another level. I am talking from a 1.3M monthly basic salary
Besides the above reasons, it's of paramount need that you wife/husband as the case me be; knows of you income and possibly bank details as well as properties should any unforeseen happenings occur. Bank Managers are really millionaires courtesy of abandoned money by deceased customer whom his/her family know nothing about their income and bank details.
I wish my hubby could read dis. He doesn't share any information concerning his finances except if he's broke, then he' ll gladly choose to be open. When it comes to my finances, he wants to know all n spend all of what I have, d moment I try to protest then am not a good wife. Mshewww, may God change these men for us.
Not every woman is prudent with spending, some spend extravagantly and don't know how to save. I think you should study your wife first and know her type before telling her about all your income.
Not every woman is prudent with spending, some spend extravagantly and don't know how to save. I think you should study your wife first and know her type before telling her about all your income.
You have said it all BONITA... the question now is: Are all women sensible. Just Pray dat if you tow dat line it favours you. I share the view all the same.
lindodo u must know how your wife manage finance at her disposal before u try such else your name will be sorry, but good women most time are better finance managers
lindodo u must know how your wife manage finance at her disposal before u try such else your name will be sorry, but good women most time are better finance managers
This adds to what I always think. Nigerian marriages are superficial, there is little substance or friendship it is all about the designated gender roles. No wonder there is less divorce, it seams the roles are fulfilled people are happy, weird. -my view-
112 comments:
Hmmm seems like a very good advice. #Bookmarked
~BONARIO~says so via NOKIA LUMIA
Open fire!!!... Smh
9ja men,una don hear? Oya over to the table of men
Good for you guys but what works for you might not work for another.
Wow! i liked the part he said my love for her has added another level, may God continue to bless your union, amen.
a.k.a EDWIN CHINEDU AZUBUKO said..
.
This makes alot of sense nobi lie.....
.
.
***CURRENTLY IN JUPITER***
I THNK ITS BETTER SO DEY KNW HW TO MANAGE DIA DEMSELVES....TOMJERRYSWIT
That's how it should be and vice versa also #onelovefromsnow#
Chai. That's good. When your wife knows what you earn then she will be able to spend according to your budget and help you save too.. It's a very good way to save family problems caused by finances or lack of it. Nice one
awww nice step.
congratulobia
Nay!not a good idea.You can tell her your rough earning,but NOT exactly how much.Financial surprises also help love grow.
Wow....DTS good. Very proud of you mister
Awww that's good. But it can also be the reverse for some o I hope it turns out good.
Men are the ones giving themselves headache.No sensible woman will nag,or demand too much when she knows the earning power of her spouse.Women can be very understanding when you show them you trust them & their opinion of you matters!
So long as the bills are paid and feeding allowance is given to her every month, what else does she need to know? If she likes she can write list till she's blue in the face, what you "say" you can afford is what you can afford. You're the man of the house, the bread winner, the one who swings big d*ck, the trouser wearer and what you say goes. P#ssy ass n#ggas!
Nah wah for Nigerian men, why should you hide how much you earn to your wife? SMH..She should know how much you earn.
Oyigbo! Like in d movies ryt??
*lib's namesake*
Men only tell when they earn a miserly amount...but when they earn big sum,they never ever tell or they divide the amount into two and lie to their wife so she wouldn't know he is using the rest to settle side chic. Umu nwoke na aghugho! Poster,don't worry...when u start earning frm 500k upwards let's see if u will still be honest and truthful.
These men should coman read this...but I think these men need to understand it first. "Wisdom is the principal thing and in all getting, get understanding."
hehehehe lolz
Men needs to understand this, wise choose n wise woman
When I got married to my wife, the first thing I did was to tell her how much I earn every month and every other side money that rolls in as day go by. To be honest, I just feel it's not really a good idea, going by what I experience with time. I just noticed that any time money comes in, the list would be increased and ma woman is not very prudent with resources so I have just decided not to put her her in the knowing of my income anymore shekina.
yes but that does not mean she has to be asking him what he uses his money for
Aww! May God continue to bless your marriage
It's a nice thing to be done in a marriage since two has become one. I can only imagine the relief you're experiencing now. I hope every couple can be transparent in their marriage to save them from unnecessary pressures especially financial pressures.
Nice one bro!
Whaooh, we can be rational at times
Hmmm I will think abouut itif I could do the same linda take note juliet tell her .....@ Babangida vickira did u hear let's practice dat lolso take note.....
awww, so sweet
True Love Sad story, I bet You'll Cry
Hmmmmm
Well, I think I deserve to know what my husband earns
Hmmmmm
Well, I think I deserve to know what my husband earns
Sure nice,but 2 some ladies oo he that find a good wife finds a good thing
Hmmmmm
Well, I think I deserve to know what my husband earns
A thousand kisses for u Mr man. U've made the best decision for u and for ur family. Truth is, how u treat ur wife determines what u get in return.
#TeamBlessed#
Okay...men I hope y'all have heard him..
Perfect! Daz how itz suppose to be... Understanding and Trust matters alot....
Most guys believe if they tell their wife how much they earn she will squander it but a wife is the first financial manager and she wants the best for her home. I have been honest with finances to my wife and i have never regret it. moreover been faithful and honest to one another in marriage doesn't have to do with sex alone in fact i believe financial faithfulness is even more important in a marriage. I am sure a lot of guys who cheat on their wife will not agree because they wont be able to explain all their spending on the side chic. cheating is not only sexually, money is important and our partner should be involve in that that is very important.
Marriage is all about openness and sincerity, My fiancee knows how much i earn, I show her my payslip every month. It really helps my dear. I know her own too. It helps in planning, she wouldnt ask me what she knows i cant afford because i have to plan with her too. I am also involve this Co-operative society too even up until PFA plans and Insurance that i am into. Wetin dey for this life sef? Good move man! Her love for you too has also increased.
To an extent, its good. But sometimes, women will tend to begin to monitor expenses. They'd quickly become mathematicians, always multiplying and adding with respect to their needs only, forgetting the man has needs too. By month end, they are quick to calculate your balance and expect it to be exactly what you should have and if it isnt, there's a fresh issue to resolve. Though there are reasonable, matured women who would act otherwise...but its still good. The men should just do it with wisdom!
I do same and it gives me a lot of piece of mind...it would also prevent u from making some frivolous spendings.
No, it will make her more demanding. Engr Emy
Luvly husband who understands wat marriage is all about keep it up Man
Correct man. May God continue blessing your marriage in Jesus Name. Amen
Suit yourself not me make wahala start
Yea, you are right. Being open is always the best. It puts your mind at rest because you dont have to worry over whether you she sees your pay cheque or not. Plus she is now also operating with a more sincere heart too because she obviously now sees why she should be more courteous and support the family as a whole.Love all the way>>>>
Linda e hard. my wife knows my income but a tell u e no easy ohhh. if u give out cash to someone in need and she does not like it na wahala particularly if she is not in good terms with that person. women turn to control alot when they know their husband income. the funny part is she even hide her own from me. meaning husband moni na for family wife own na for her self and her family. hmmmmm
Naaaa.
The Good Lord knows that Z will always pull some 'Ananias' on her.
Gotta hide somethin 4 extracurricular activities/miscellaneous expenditures especially with the Boys 2 Men.
Naaaa.
The Good Lord knows that Z will always pull some 'Ananias' on her.
Gotta hide somethin 4 extracurricular activities/miscellaneous expenditures especially with the Boys 2 Men.
I don't think its about pride as much as its about wanting to have money all the time for the side chicks.
Ok, Gud 4u
Wow!this really touched my heart.I love dis
True. Most men lie through everything meanwhile they are skimmers looking for prey (or borrow borrow). There are still decent ladies who understands the need to support their man and curtail there expenses. You guys should give it a try and where you have enough to spend, shower your wife/girlfriend with lots and lots of gifts.
Marriage.... Hmmm i believe both spouse should be open about everythg including finances. You areon a journey together....
Bulk shoes, bags, accessories gor ladies for sale.
Email shoewarehousenigeria@gmail.com for inquiries.
That's how it should be. My Hubby does same.
Two shall come together and become one- that's the essence of marriage. You are one and the same person. There's no sense in hiding something from yourself
Just cos u found a good wife doesn't mean everyone will find a good wife. Some women r evil the minute u let em know that minute ur suffering begins. Pls yall should stop giving general advice biko. It won't work for everyone just cos it worked for you
Nice One dear, I am trilled by this post, Please keep it up.
This is lovely tho I still don't understand why men find it difficult to tell their wives how much they earn
Nma's Space
It is very necessary. there's no argument about that. It saves you a lot of problem. like he said, forget the pride, she's your wife, your other part.
Nice move by you,most men doesn't know that.
Nope!! That's the worst thing a guy can do. May be when u don't have much u can be more open but when u are very rich, don't dare it. The would make sure the finish.and suck.u. Just make sure u provide all the need that's all.
Good for u both
This is sweet
I Totally agree with this. Its very important for couples to be open to each other financially. It has really helped me in my home, I and my wife never argue about money or expenses cause she knows about every kobo I get and spend, and I know hers too.
its really nice ....
Interesting.
nice one.
Awwwww....
I agree!
ckjacob.blogspot.com
Not a biggie as long as wifey is understanding.
God bless you Bro you did the right thing.my wife knows mine.
lolz..I know what my husband gets monthly cos I follow up on his alert even though he tries hiding the balance from me for d reasons known to him, he his a saver and likes to save for big project while I am a spender, and I don't demand from him anyhow jus cos I saw his income. But to cover up for my spending,i cover up for many house expenses.. nd to have some savings from myself I boost up his own savings..lolz
Yea right! Because you make 250k per month, try it if you make 5M to 10M every month and come back here to give the testimony.
Wise decision.
Wise decision.
Awwwww.so swt.its d truth.wen u try to hide ur income d woman will fink d moni is so huge dts y ur hidin buh if she knws hw much exactly,she won't boda u much on cash issues cos she wil def wnt u to save for d future.in general both male and females shuld b open abt deir income especially if dey r married.my opinion though
I hope my egba prince gets to read this.
Yea Right!!!
Noted
Mtchw who cares? If u like don't tell Ur wives, Ur conscience go kill u
~D great anonymous!
When some men start to misleading others,
what work for you can not work for others,
man just wait till december season clouths reach or
your father or mother inlaws are in needs of money,
we dey wait
I reserve my comments on dis. Linda take note!
I reserve my comments on dis. Linda take note!
Nice!
It's a very wise thing to do. U ar now one so nothing to hide. Let's all pray for wisdom in our marriages. Wisdom is profitable to direct.
Only poor men can be sucked dry by women, which woman can suck Dangote,Adenuga and d likes of them down? If u dey earn #2m monthly my brother na church rat u still be so its easy for a woman to milk u dry.
#FrommyMTNBIS
U must be a baby. Ur comment shouldn't be counted.
GUESS I WILL DO THESAME IMMEDIATELY, , we inform, connect and entertain >> www.247ng.com
Necessary move for a peaceful home
To tell the truth...it makes us feel vulnerable
Well it depends on individuals, most times if a man opens up to d wife on side of income it brings problem most especially whn d man cld nt meet up with d demands from d side of d wife's family bc most women are self centered whn it comes to dt they will forget dt d man has his own family as well........ i know my hubby's income and we understands ourselves.period
I agree o my brother.... My wife knows everything and I know hers and the way we plan for stuff together is on another level. I am talking from a 1.3M monthly basic salary
Vry nice idea
You are a goat aswear. If she can suffer with you and didn't leave yo broke ass then she shd enjoy the money when and if it comes. Stingy ass nigga
Funny people, cos na u work for am. Nigerian women know your balance and how e dey go na strong billing be that..lol
Besides the above reasons, it's of paramount need that you wife/husband as the case me be; knows of you income and possibly bank details as well as properties should any unforeseen happenings occur.
Bank Managers are really millionaires courtesy of abandoned money by deceased customer whom his/her family know nothing about their income and bank details.
#Dankwata
I wish my hubby could read dis. He doesn't share any information concerning his finances except if he's broke, then he' ll gladly choose to be open. When it comes to my finances, he wants to know all n spend all of what I have, d moment I try to protest then am not a good wife. Mshewww, may God change these men for us.
Not every woman is prudent with spending, some spend extravagantly and don't know how to save.
I think you should study your wife first and know her type before telling her about all your income.
Thats the normal thing to do.
Not every woman is prudent with spending, some spend extravagantly and don't know how to save.
I think you should study your wife first and know her type before telling her about all your income.
You have said it all BONITA... the question now is: Are all women sensible. Just Pray dat if you tow dat line it favours you. I share the view all the same.
guy, you are obviously not earning much. If you were, the story would be different!
I like biko
Adaobi, you are just on the spot.
lindodo u must know how your wife manage finance at her disposal before u try such else your name will be sorry, but good women most time are better finance managers
lindodo u must know how your wife manage finance at her disposal before u try such else your name will be sorry, but good women most time are better finance managers
Awwww dats nice!
My spouse doesn't give me money monthly for house keeping etc. i have accepted my faith after almost two decades of marriage.
Adaobi is spot on...study ur wife and daughter type..some women are full of hidden agenda
This adds to what I always think. Nigerian marriages are superficial, there is little substance or friendship it is all about the designated gender roles. No wonder there is less divorce, it seams the roles are fulfilled people are happy, weird.
-my view-
Is a nice idea
Post a Comment