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Thursday, 16 July 2015

Bez Idakula's wife writes on the pain of losing their first child 24 hrs after birth

In a revealing piece she shared on her website this week, Bolatito Ladoja-Idakula, wife of singer Bez Idakalu, shared the painful experience she went through, losing their first child, a girl, who died 24 hours after she was born on March 2nd 2015. Bola talked about how she was able to deal with one of the most painful things that could happen to a woman and how her husband helped her deal with the pain. What she shared after the cut...



It is so odd, writing about the loss of a child, you fear that the words can never fully express the pain and the gravity of the situation. But I don't mean to just express my pain and loss. I mean to show God's power and love even in the darkest days.
I come from a culture of silence, where speaking about certain issues is almost taboo. One of the most kept secrets is when a woman loses a child, no one talks about it and it is almost like it never happened. People only speak about it when the woman has another child or they find out that you have lost a child. I fall in the category of the latter. I gave birth to my beautiful daughter  on the 2nd of March 2015 and she passed away on the 3rd of March 2015 after 42 weeks pregnancy.
I remember my experience and every time, I marvel at the power of God to give unimaginable peace. I found out on the 22nd of January 2015 that my daughter had a condition called congenital diaphragmatic hernia; an extremely rare condition in which the diaphragm does not fully develop and has a hole. The diaphragm is the organ that separates the chest cavity from the abdomen. When it has a hole, it leaves space for the organs in the abdomen including the stomach, liver and kidneys to go into the chest cavity. This means they take up space meant for the organs in the chest cavity and barely leave room for them to grow.

In my daughter’s case, her heart ended up being pushed to the right and her lungs barely developed. In fact she only had one lung and that was almost undeveloped. The summary of this, they told me, is that once she was born, she won’t be able to breathe on her own due to lack of lungs and the positioning of the heart.  The ironic part is the fact that as they spoke I could feel her kicking and turning. This made it very difficult for me to understand what they were saying and they emphasised to me that I was keeping her alive through my placenta. They emphasized that once she was brought into the world, she had less than a 15% chance of survival only achievable with intense medical intervention. She was also a very small baby and so there was a limit to how much her body would be able to take even with intervention.

They literally told me she was going to die.

Now as a Christian, I only knew one thing. I had FAITH. My Faith was that God would perform a miracle that’ll shock them. They only knew medicine but they didn’t know my God. Jesus woke Lazarus up from death after 3 days in the grave. Jesus Christ said that faith of a mustard seed could move mountains and I TRULY believe that. My faith was completely childlike and I prayed every day that God would perform a miracle for me. I asked God to shame the forces of evil that wanted to hurt my daughter and take her away. I called on my Church family and my husband and I told those closest to us to join us in prayer and I documented the process with videos so I could share my testimony with the world.  And my baby girl was so active, she would kick and turn when I prayed and took communion. She strengthened my faith.

When my daughter was born, after 14 hours in labour, I saw her try hard to take breaths but she couldn’t. I saw how beautiful she was in a few quick seconds before they had to take her to NICU to try to save her life. She was so small but so incredibly beautiful with SO MUCH HAIR!!! For some reason I cannot forget her beautiful head of hair. I truly believed when they took her away, they will come back to me with an apology for doubting my faith and they will realise she was completely healthy. I kept waiting for them to come and give me the update and they eventually did. But contrary to my expectations, they came to tell me just how serious the situation was and how bad it looked. They had tried everything but it all seemed to have no effect. They were just going to monitor her for the next few days and see if she improved. I knew when they said this that she was definitely going to improve. I am a believer in the word of God that says where there is life there is hope, so my hope did not wane for a second.

Even when the doctor came to call me that her case had deteriorated and I should come and spend some time with her, I thought it was because God needed me to be present for the miracle (lol…like God needs anyone’s help). So I was very excited to go and be with my baby girl. I will never forget entering the NICU room and seeing all the babies in their incubators and then I saw my baby girl with all types of wires on her while the Doctors were pressing her chest because her heart had stopped. She was so small and they could only use a few fingers to administer CPR and even then I knew she was going to be just fine. God waited 3 days to bring Lazarus back to life so my baby was definitely going to be fine.

I asked if I could carry her and they said yes. I put her close to my chest, and put my breast on her mouth and tried to make her suck but she just couldn’t because she didn’t have the strength, so I just held her close and talked to her and sang to her. I told her how much I loved her and how much I wanted to be her mum and how much I wanted to take her home with me. I begged God to please save my baby’s life.  I told her to shame the Doctors and Nurses that told me she won’t make it through the night. My husband took pictures of us and I still look at those sometimes. He also took pictures with her and held her close and just enjoyed having his daughter in his arms and I took pictures of them. I saw him become a Dad in the way he carried her and instructed me on carrying her and that was beautiful and comforting because I knew he was a wonderful father.  As we spent time with her, the doctor and nurses kept coming to check her pulse and every time it seemed it was harder to find a pulse but that didn’t deter my faith.

Then I got really tired all of a sudden and I could barely keep my eyes open. My husband was holding our daughter and somehow I drifted to sleep. I have no idea how many minutes I had been asleep for but it felt quite long but also quite short. I can’t explain it but I knew it was God who put me to sleep to avoid seeing the actual moment she passed away. When I woke up, my husband was still holding her but I immediately knew that my baby girl had gone home to heaven to be with her ultimate father and creator. I asked my husband and he told me she was completely cold and stiff in his hands and I was okay with it. I still cannot explain how I did not run mad and how my heart was so calm. I just accepted it or maybe it was because a part of me still knew God could turn the situation around. We eventually called the Doctor and told her our baby girl was gone and she took her from my husband’s arms. We quietly went back to our room in complete silence; there was just nothing to say.

Even as the Chaplain came in to the room to comfort us with pictures of her and birth certificate and little mementos from the hospital, I was still just numb. I told him I felt ashamed that I lost the battle despite my faith. He reminded me that in this world we fight many battles but we are in a war and it is ultimately about winning the war.  I also remember our dear friend Erina Raji came to see us a few hours later, I just wanted to sing and praise God! I wanted to so badly sing that I was humming the words to ‘My God is Awesome’ by Charles Jenkins and Erina goes ‘Tito wants to sing’ and I just sang.

This is the point I saw my test become my testimony. This is when I realised I had reached a new level of faith. A point where like Job I could say ‘Though he slay me, yet will I hope in him.’ I NEVER in a million years thought I would be able to praise God when my daughter had just passed away and this is why I call this experience a testimony. God put peace in my heart and song on my lips. I knew even in the blur of my pain that ‘everything would work for my good’.  I was also able to say that ‘God loves her more than I could ever have loved her’ and I knew it hurt him more than it hurt me to see me in so much pain because as my Father he always wants to give me everything I ask him for. I immediately knew that the fact that our daughter was taken away must eventually be part of God’s purpose for our lives in someway. After all I knew that God is the Alpha and the Omega and he knows the end from the beginning and his plans for me are always good.

This might all sound contradictory to someone who is not acquainted with my God and I might have agreed if I was an outsider. However, my relationship with God had gotten to the point that I realised that although it was the enemy that caused us the pain, God could have stopped it but he chose not to. I realised that with the way we called out to him within the 6 weeks period leading to her birth, God could have definitely changed things but he didn’t because he had a different plan. I remembered Jesus Christ before He was crucified was in so much anxiety as He prayed that blood dripped out as sweat and He asked His Father to take the cup away from Him but He ultimately said the words ‘let your will be done’. And I remember saying to people that even though the enemy thought he had won, he was going to regret it because God is the one who restores and when He does He would bring more blessings just as with Job. I just wondered HOW????

I realised that my love for GOD is supreme and being his daughter was the most important reason for my life. As Christians, we pray all the time ‘let your will be done’ and assume there will be no pain. I wonder if many of us will still praise God when we experience pain. Would we still proclaim his love for us or would we give up on him? I realised that I had grown so much that this storm did not distract me from the still small voice of my God which says ‘be still and know that I am God’.

Beyond all of this, I am able to thank God for everything he has done for me through my experience.
My relationship with my husband is on a new level of closeness that I did not think was possible. Our love for each other has grown deeper and this also translates to our love for God. My husband is such an incredible support system that I know for a fact God brought the two of us together for a reason.

He had a small settee to sit on when we were at the hospital but he was just so focused on me that his discomfort was almost non-existent. We prayed together so much and his faith strengthened mine and I will always praise God for blessing me with a man after His heart that I can share my faith with.  I should also apologise that this experience seems like it only happened to me but we both went through this emotional roller coaster and reached the conclusion that God remains God.

The reason I am sharing this is not because I want a pity party but because I want to share God’s love even in the midst of pain. I want to share His love NOW. A lot of times when we go through difficult moments as Christians, we seem to forget all about God and we just wait until times get good again before sharing our testimonies. We almost forget that it is God that holds us up when we could have broken down. It is God that sustains us and gives us the ability to move forward. I love the quote that says ‘until the doors of blessings open, praise God in the hallway”. A lot of people have marvelled at my husband and I’s ability to move forward so fluidly and so strongly but we are always quick to give God the Praise. My best friends kept asking me the question ‘are you sleeping now’ a few days after and I always laughed because sleep was not a problem.

God told me he expects me to share this with the world and not wait until the next baby dedication. He wants you to know that he remains God even when you are hurting and he is the balm of Gilead. I acknowledge that this was not just by my strength, God sent us so many helpers and they truly built me up during the times when I got so low that I didn’t even know how to pray or read my bible. God really would not give you a challenge you cannot handle. I have complete confidence and peace in my heart and know that greater things are coming, but right now I just want to let the world know that God is ALWAYS good even while you wait. Praise him always!

221 comments:

  1. SUCH A BAD ONE, GOD FORBID N COMFORT U....TOMJERRYSWIT

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    1. May the Lord console you my dear. I can imagine what you have been through, I lost a pregnancy at 4months; 3 days after my mum passed away due to the shock and its still a always in my head even though it was meant to be my second child. Its unexplainable and am happy you know CHRIST cos when things like this happen its only GOD you can hold on too.
      I thank God for the UK, the midwives counsel and reassure you even though you don't have people around to talk too but when you get the chance you talk it out, it eases the pain in a way. The Almighty will definitely bless you with another one and your joy shall be full.

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    2. God will give u children that will stay. Take heart..!

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    3. Wow dis testimony is just what i needed at ds time. May God perfect all dat concerns ur family dear

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    4. My child was born with the same condition and was in NICU for nearly 2 months. It is a rarely heard of congenital defect and there is no explanation how it occurs. I just thank God everyday when I see my child continue to grow healthy and strong. Thank God that I had him in Europe because he never would have made it in any of our African medical facilities. He is a living testimony that Our God lives people. Never doubt Him ever.

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    5. Awww was almost crying... my dear thank God for your faith in Christ Jesus! The number of times v bin pregnant is more than the children God has blessed me with now but despite the pains of miscarriage,God is faithful to bless me with ds bundles of joy and He'll wipe away your tears soon. Praise God!

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    6. My dear, Europe didn't save your baby, God did.

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    1. All I want to do is sing....

      Glory be to God in the highest Amen
      Glory be to God in the highest Amen
      For his mercies endure the forever Amen.

      Bolatito you life shall be filled with testimonies. Shalom

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    2. So touching.....God is the doer of all things.....HE will bless you soonest and your joy shall be full...Remain strong....

      Moye says so via BB Passport...Courtesy LIB......

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    3. A healthy baby is comin soon by the grace if God...God bless ur family

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    1. Awwww, so inspiring and touching. In every situation, whether ugly or fine, praise God.

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  4. Awww! Quite heart rendering.
    May God console her and bless her pretty soon with fruit of the womb.

    ~BONARIO~says so via NOKIA LUMIA

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  5. God pls grant dis family d fortitude to bear their loss. RIP to their lovely child.

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    1. Thank you for speaking out dear. Thank you and God bless your home

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    2. Indeed even in our unfaithfulness he's GOD and always would be. Bless you for this message just made me realise how awesome God is irrespective.

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    3. I read everything, from start to finish. I am an expecting mum, so I can relate with you a little. You are a strong mum. Thanks for reaching out to the world. God bless your home

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  6. Sori bro,,,***odikwa risky nd tyt***

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  7. Too long!

    "Slow and steady wins d race"

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  8. Too long!

    "Slow and steady wins d race"

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    1. You are a fool.oloriburuku omo ale. Bloody bastard

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    2. u r so dumb...

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  9. Awww.. so touching.. God bless her hrt

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  10. I am so sorry for your loss my sister in Christ. I'm a mother of two myself and I know the joy and pains associated with bringing a baby to life. Not by my power, I have never lost a child but I can imagine vividly what it may have felt like. The Lord will soon replace the gap with more beautiful babies in Jesus Name.
    It is well with you and your husband. Your joy has come already. I will be praying for you. God bless you both.

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  11. Tough tough tough!! No woman should experience loss of a child jare. I know how i felt when I had my 2nd miscarriage few wks ago. But truly all these things don't change the fact that God is still God.. We will laugh at last my dear. Keep praising!

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  12. God will bring another one...

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  13. Wow.. am am truly inspired... God is great and I thank him for giving u the strength to carry on! She is in a better place... thanks for writing this and I know u have helped others who has lost their children... I Pray before next year, we will be reading about your child dedication in Jesus name.. Amen... Remain strong!

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  14. she made me cry....God bless u my dear.you faith inspires me...i prophesy that your next pregnancy shall be twins.A boy and Girl.Amen

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  15. I am inspired, even as I am trying to conceive I believe so much in what only God can do, because if he can't do it nobody else can. God bless you Tito for sharing.

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  16. Eyah, sorry dear, take heart..

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  17. Hallelujah. Jehova the All Knowing God.

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  18. God bless you for this piece. I had never commented on this platform before, but today you untied my stiffened hands to SAY MAY THE ALMIGHTY FATHER BE THERE FOR YOU AND YOUR HUSBAND. Ur piece lifted my soul.

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    1. Same here. Her story really ministered to me.. she'll definitely tell a different story soon

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    2. Same here too. Was deeply touched. Our God indeed is a just God. He can be trusted! God mend ur broken heart and grant u ur innermost heart desire. Amen!

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  19. heart wrenching. your next baby would also have a full head of hair, a very beautiful smile and such lungs that would make his cry so loud that you would wonder from whence he has the strenght. Amen



    THE POTION!!
    "Come and buy come and buy!"The Smallish buldgy eyed sales man was screaming  into the Public Address System.

    It was a little difficult to ascertain how many different fabrics made up the multicolored coat he was wearing.In front of the man was a large red cloth spread across the ground.

    There were dozens of strange colored  bottles strewn across the cloth. continue reading

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    1. Amen for the prayers!!! The part about him crying so loud just brought tears to my eyes all over again Awwww.

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  20. Your courage is inspiring! God bless you!

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  21. This are the kind of word that will make you look back at God's mercy and grace.you can't read this and not feel like crying unless you don't have a child

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  22. Thank you for this piece. U just lifted my spirit.

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  23. Awwww wot a touching story, may God giv u d happiness dat u desire...dis time it wil b a bouncing baby boy....
    #MzEmerald

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  24. Stay strong woman of faith. Many have gone through similar trials and God gave them more kids and blessings. It is well with you in Jesus name. Your story brings back memories

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  25. Can i just say you are a BRAVE WOMAN.... When i saw this write up i was shocked and sad because obviously no one knew you were pregnant.
    I would like to add that you are a strong woman and i pray God Almighty blesses you with more children. Its true no one talks about the loss of a child, pssh i havent shared this story with anyone. I lost my first child at the age of 25 and i tell you it hurts so bad no one would understand. I was shocked when i was told he had Trisomy 18..i was like trisomy kini..I hadn't heard about it before so i asked questions like God Why me!!! I started asking i got married a virgin, i have always worshipped you so what did i do wrong. No one prepares you for that part when the doctors say you cant hold him when he comes coz he will be too weak... I wont bore you with my stories but i can say now i have a baby boy and expecting another. This is not a pity message but its me saying you are not alone and your happiness will come soon. Just keep having fate in God and be thankful for your loving husband and supportive family. Thats all that counts.

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  26. My Dear you have deep Faith in God,Your Faith Challenges me.Its well with you.May God Bless you now and Always.Amen

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  27. God bless You Tito and Bez. Im really sorry for Ur lose but in the midst of it all i respect You for This pièce because it is a comforting pièce for anypne going through a lose at d moment. May God in his infinité mercies bless ur mariage with children That would ne greater than their parents in Jesus Name . Amen. Once again accept my condoléances

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  28. i am so touched..through out dis week God has bin dealing wif me on faith n dis story just took my lesson to a whole new level.God bless u ma for sharing n congrats as we await ur new baby

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  29. Wow. am really touched by your experience and appreciate the grace that God has given you to pass through this phase of your life. I believe God has a bigger plan for your life, Keep trusting in God in due season he will bless you with double for your loss. Hold On!!!

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  30. I know what she is going through and how she feels. May the Lord be her strength as he has been my strength AMEN.

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  31. Linda you are on of the causes she's from a polygamous home and you dare advertise her pregnancy on your blog you are cursed I swear you break marriages etc cos you want hits on your blog may God help you

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    1. Shut up there!

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    2. Wee you keepqwait!

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    3. What is ds dick head saying? Can u read at all? Illiterate

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  32. Eyah, sorry dear, take heart..

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  33. Hallelujah!! God bless u and ur family maam. I am inspired.
    We all shall celebrate ur child dedication soon

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  34. I am in shock!
    now this is a real woman.
    Men, Bez you married well, God bless both of you and i speak complete restoration to your lives in Jesus name, Amen!

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  35. Bless your strong heart. He will replace all that you have lost with abundance and give you Joy everlasting!

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  36. Thank you Bolatito for sharing this and thank you too Linda for putting this up. She's absolutely right and its only God who can give comfort in the midst of such pain. I too have the terrible experience of losing a child though mine was at birth. My lil trooper was fine until the morning he was due to be born when we woke and couldn't find a heartbeat for my little man. I kept this information from my wife so as not to upset her during labour and like Bolatito prayed with faith that God would perform a miracle and shame the Doctors who told me there was no hope. Alas, my boy was born already dead again like Bolatito's girl, with a full head of hair, beautiful, ten toes and ten fingers, except for one crucial fact, he wasn't breathing and never did. Till today we never received any satisfactory explanation for why we lost him, but all in all we give honour and glory to God and thanks to Him who saw us through that darkest of times.

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  37. I am in shock!
    now this is a real woman.
    Men, Bez you married well, God bless both of you and i speak complete restoration to your lives in Jesus name, Amen!

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  38. I am in shock!
    now this is a real woman.
    Men, Bez you married well, God bless both of you and i speak complete restoration to your lives in Jesus name, Amen!

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  39. Thank you so much for sharing your testimony. Your home is blessed in Jesus name.

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  40. It is well.. God has a reason for every season. It is well!

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    1. Thank God she's better and stronger


      COMING SOON!!!
      [Music] LYNDY - MY HERO ( A TRIBUTE TO DR GOODLUCK JONATHAN)

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  41. Same words I said 2 my self last nyt be4 going 2 sleep,i knw I hav a great GOD who loks over me @ all tyms

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  42. Praise God !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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  43. Nice write up.
    I really settled down to read this.
    God will bless you with more children, because of your faith, it won't take long. Amen.

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  44. God bless you ma for your timely piece. May God restore you and ur husband in double folds.

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  45. An epic post that could not have been put any better. I praise God for putting you through and guiding you. I also pray that his praise shall not depart from your home. Your piece has given me a new insight on God and who he is. Thank you Mrs Idakalu, God bless you and may you never go through such again. (Amen)

    JaggedEdge

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  46. It is painful to lose a child after carrying him/her for 9 months but in all we have to be still and know that He is God...
    He is a God of miracle

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  47. I'm touched! Give thanks to God in all situation. Your next testimony is on its way.

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  48. Finally something on Linda Ikeji that Edifies... Great Story!

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  49. Wow. Jehovah will surely do something GREAT. God bless your heart.

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  50. God bless you Sis and yes, your bundle of joy is coming. Gosh, i couldn't stop the tears from flowing and i am at work ooo

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  51. I love you Bolatito. Thanks for sharing this Testimony. May God uphold you continuously. He will give you more children full of health and purpose. This was very inspiring and made me cry. I have female children and people mock us that we have no sons. But in my heart I am know that we are blessed and our children are gifts from God. God bless you and your husband and children.

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  52. Touching story... God be praised in all situation. So much strength gotten from reading this story/message... "God would not give you a problem you cant handle"

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  53. Well said sister, this has really lifted me up. Right now i trust God even more and I know he has given me and my daughter victory over her health.

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  54. May God continue to comfort you and am sure by the blood shed on the Calvary He will bring you joy soonest

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  55. I feel your pain dear sister cos I have been in such situation before and trust me it wasn't easy, I thank GOD for his mercy and wisdom to overcome the pain. He has given me a reason to smile again because I am alive. That's a big testimony.
    Thank God for the men we married for standing by our side.
    You would have every reason to smile again.

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  56. Am seriously crying...Father,may your name always be praised in all circumstance.

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  57. I'm tearing reading thru your testimony my sister, I luv your faith so so much and also find it comforting, as I'm also passing through similar challenge now. Just this morning I was crying and singing the same song "be still and know that I am God" and most times I asked " why would God allow us pass through pains and challenges of life when it is in his hands to deliver"? Even when he says " who can say a word and it come to pass when he has not spoken?. But in all, I just know "I cannot call on his name and end up in shame and I cannot kneel before him and bow before men, NO WAY.

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  58. Wow! I admire your courage and I pray that the comforting hands of d balm of Gilead will rest upon ur family and keep you all safe.
    God will make you fruitful and plentious till u say- kilode! Lol
    Hugs

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  59. I'm tearing reading thru your testimony my sister, I luv your faith so so much and also find it comforting, as I'm also passing through similar challenge now. Just this morning I was crying and singing the same song "be still and know that I am God" and most times I asked " why would God allow us pass through pains and challenges of life when it is in his hands to deliver"? Even when he says " who can say a word and it come to pass when he has not spoken?. But in all, I just know "I cannot call on his name and end up in shame and I cannot kneel before him and bow before men, NO WAY.

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  60. Am seriously crying...Father,may your name always be praised in all circumstance.

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  61. I seldom read lengthy write-ups, but I took every word of this article down my inner being as my eyes gazed for the next words. God who has given you the strength to go thus far, has given you the hands to carry your children and reap double for the trouble. Your undeniable and endless joy is here.

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  62. Its a pity
    Take heart
    And God will give your other ones
    That'll be here to stay

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  63. Dearie thank you for sharing, he alone knoweth all. may his name be praised. in a short while he shall fill your heart with laughter and your mouth with praise.

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  64. I seldom read lengthy write-ups, but I took every word of this article down my inner being as my eyes gazed for the next words. God who has given you the strength to go thus far, has given you the hands to carry your children and reap double for the trouble. Your undeniable and endless joy is here.

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  65. I sure can relate! I remember losing my first pregnancy... it came unexpectedly! I was not ill, or anything... I cried for days o! Replaying everything from when I got news of the pregnancy to losing it... but from the time I stepped out of the operating room, where I had the evacuation done... I burst out laughing (yeah... though drowsy, I was laughing)... my friend that was with me was a bit worried (I'm sure at that point she probably thought I had kolo_ed)... the devil could not hold me down! As painful as the experience was, I saw God at work. I waited 4 days before agreeing to do the evacuation, cos I was exercising my faith :p
    I remember posting a song on Facebook before heading for the procedure-

    Oh Thou who knowest my beginning,
    Thou who created the plan,
    who orchestrated my life's journey;
    God, You are my God.
    God of decisions, Creator of answers,
    Thou who ordained my way,
    through my transition, held my position;
    God, You are my God.
    I will forever give You praise,
    honor and celebrate Your name,
    God of the past, present, and Who is to come;
    oh God, You are my God.
    Whatever You do with (me) it's alright,
    (You have my total trust), You have my trust.
    (Glory and) honor, (dominion and) power;
    (God, You are my God).
    God, oh God,
    You are the only wise God.
    (Oh Thou who knowest my beginning),
    (God, You are my God).

    It's well Bez & Wife, IBEJI LO SURE JU :* :* :* GOD IS SO FAITHFUL

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  66. Woooooooow! I was really moved and at the same time I have been blessed by her article. Thank God for His Grace and Peace. Linda take note!

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  67. Woooooooow! I was really moved and at the same time I have been blessed by her article. Thank God for His Grace and Peace. Linda take note!

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  68. Woooooooow! I was really moved and at the same time I have been blessed by her article. Thank God for His Grace and Peace. Linda take note!

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  69. My dear as you read this comments, Know that you are an amazing woman! and you have encouraged so many hearts today. May God continue to bless you and your husband, and I pray he doubles the portion of blessing. Thank you so much for sharing!

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  70. Wow..you really inspired me...GOd will surely turn this test into testimony...I cried so hard as I read your testimony..I recently had a set of twins woare turning one next week and I couldn't imagine loosing them ...oh mynsister .lyou and your husband will be blessed double portion in Jesus name..
    God bless you..

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  71. My God!i cried all through.God bless u for helpin others through your pain.your strenght is comforting and may your little angel rest in perfect peace.

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  72. My God!i cried all through.God bless u for helpin others through your pain.your strenght is comforting and may your little angel rest in perfect peace.

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  73. Tears just kept flowing, you well get double for your lose. That's His promise

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  74. I praise God for your life and that of your husband. May your lovely daughter's beautiful soul rest in perfect peace amen. Remain strong and my sincere condolences.

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  75. Bola, I don't know you but...THANK YOU. Your story has strengthened me, your story has made me remember that our God is an awesome God. Your story has inspired me to continue having faith that everything will be OK. God be praised for your life, he loves you and he will bless you and Bez with another. I wish you the best and again thanks for this piece, God will reward you. I want to write so much, I want to pray with you, I want to hold your hands and pray with you but I can't. As I return home from work today, I will go down on my knees and lift you and your family in prayer..it is well!

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  76. Aww so sorry dear, I know how it feels, I lost my first child when she was 6mnths it felt lyk d end of my world, newly married young nd losing a child was lyk d worst thing, but I give praise to God cos I never blasphemed in d midst of my pains. I had to defer 1yr cos it was lyk I was running mad. but 6yrs later he has given double of what I lost.( finished wt a good result and 2beautiful daughters nd a 3wks old son) so I have confidence he will do more dan dat for u. it's only one who hasn't lost a child dat doesn't knw how deep d wounds are nd only God can heal it. the lord is ur strength dear

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  77. Wow, am so touched by this.....

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  78. May the Lord console you my dear. I can imagine what you have been through, I lost a pregnancy at 4months; 3 days after my mum passed away due to the shock and its still a always in my head even though it was meant to be my second child. Its unexplainable and am happy you know CHRIST cos when things like this happen its only GOD you can hold on too.
    I thank God for the UK, the midwives counsel and reassure you even though you don't have people around to talk too but when you get the chance you talk it out and it eases the pain in a way. The Almighty will definitely bless you with another one and your joy shall be full.

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  79. HE is GOD ALWAYS. I admire your faith in Him my dear. May God always be with your household. Amen

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  80. Wow! This is really humbling..

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  81. what a comforting write up. God would always be God no matter what. We should learn to praise him always.

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  82. God bless u and ur hubby, God will do in double fold what u have lost, u have raised my FAITH in God more with ur story...

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  83. Oh my God dis is so touching ! I've lost a child before after birth and I knw how it feels but in all I jst took it as a blessing in disguise. He always has great plans for us. Never stop believing in him. God will definetly give her a new song Amen!

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  84. Wow so inspiring piece! God will surely bless you with another IJN I must commend your faith and d right up is Mind blowing!

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  85. My sister am really happy for you for your level of faith and confidence in God, l lost my first baby through still birth 2010 it was as if my world has come to an end but within two years the Lord proved himself by given us two boys not twins. The same God will do for you.

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  86. Got tears rolling down my cheeks.its well

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  87. such a touching story. Praise be to God, the comforter.

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  88. the best post so far on this blog..just keep up the faith sister..i can guarantee you that GOD has a special , beautiful plan for you.. i strongly know that for sure..bcos i know it, i know GOD.. I HAVE TASTED HIS POWER AND GRACE UPON OUR LIFE...THANK YOU JESUS FOR EVERYTHING

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  89. This really touched my heart, The Lord will bless you again, He will! Thank you for sharing your Story..... It seems odd to call it a story, but for the lack of better words. Bless you both , all my love xx

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  90. Though he slay me, yet will I hope in him..... that word touched me..... this article came at d right time.... #He wants you to know that he remains God even when you are hurting and he is the balm of Gilead...... Thank you Jesus

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  91. Wow! God is good, all the time. I praise master Jesus Christ

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  92. Wow I must confess that ever since I started reading linda blogs this is the most amazing touching story i ve ever red... Mrs Bez thanks for sharing ur testimony it help other families going through same situation.... God bless u

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  93. D Lord is ur strength Mr nd Mrs....d nxt one is gonna stay wit u til old age ** take hart, hold on nd be strong....

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  94. This woman reduced me to tears on a hot afternoon, didn't even kwn I was crying until I finished reading it.

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    1. U should have kept quiet bro! Don't be sarcastic. C'mon! .Can't deal! Jeez!

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  96. Wat a motivatin writeup, we'll in every situations,we jst av to thank god be it gud or badand dats all ido, so she's enjoining us all to follow

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  97. I like your faith Bolatito, it well u made me cry out my eyes reading this .

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  98. Wonderful testimony!! It brings to mind cobham's song 'God is God anywayz'. It's easy to praise God when all is good but praising God when things go wrong as a way of building ur faith and strengthening ur relationship Wt him.

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  99. My sister l really thank God for your strong Faith in God because it happened to me 2010 but today that same God has bless us with two lovely boys not twins within two years, God is too faithful to fail, he will surely prove himself in your case IJN

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  100. Quitean inspirational piece, it has further reaffirmed my faith in God, as God indeed is the master planner of our lives. It's well dear.

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  101. wow.. ur testimony just gave me strength and faith in the Lord.

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  102. Praise the lord!!!! Testify of his mercy and goodness even when you don't understand. Thank God for your life. God brought you closer to him though a painful experience but He remains Lord.Hallelujah....

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  103. As children of God Our attitude should be, God,I know u ll never fail me oR disappoint me even though dz looks like disappointment..God knows what's BEST 4 us,coz he has our BEST interest @ heart..reading dz piece has blessd me & I'm thankFUL..in ur due season God will again bless u with another child as u trust his faithfulness..

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  104. Hmmmm, I am torched and moved to tears. May Almighty God give you cute, lovely, blessed children IJN

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  105. So touching, thank God 4 r faith n strength given unto r. D baby dat left ws nt r own, God wl gv r r own baby dat wl stay wt r till r old days n beyond IJN. RIP 2 d lil princess

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  106. So touching, thank God 4 r faith n strength given unto r. D baby dat left ws nt r own, God wl gv r r own baby dat wl stay wt r till r old days n beyond IJN. RIP 2 d lil princess

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  107. AWESOME!!!! GOD IS OUR ONLY PRESENT HELP IN TIMES OF NEED. YOU ARE REALLY A BLESSING!!!

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  108. Awww it really pains. Sorry dear, ur husband don use am.

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  109. I cant read it. My heart bleeds. May Jehovah console her and the husband

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  110. God pls comfort their family, and RIP to their belove child. God abundantly bless them, and see them thru.

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  111. pls comfort their family, and RIP to their belove child. God abundantly bless them, and see them thru.

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  112. so sad but dont worry dear, God will give u anoda baby that will stay

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  113. Wow. God is Great. Oluwatobiloba

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  114. Sister, affliction will not arise d second time so pls keep up your faith, for the same bible said that for your shame I shall give U double. Am sure they will come.

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  115. I thank God 4 He is God. ..Thank u sister for sharing and Thanks Linda for posting.

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  116. God Will Always Bless your Home ma .. I pray for every heart Yearning for help From God .. He will Do New Things in Your Life ..

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  117. Oh dear! I read it from start to finish.Mrs Bolatito Idakula,God will never forget you,He will bless u beyond ur expectation.God will honour you,He will decorate u with all the good things of life,He will u give u unlimited joy by blessing u with triplet,two healthy boys and a very healthy baby girl.Watch out because the blessings will be too much that there will not be enough room to contain all of them.

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  118. God of all comfort will bring smiles your way soon. Our first baby came into this world cold dead. So beautiful and with a lot of hair as we had always desire. Just a year later, the Lord blessed us with a wonderful gift..a baby boy... who is now about 1 year. To those who are going through such hard times now, the God who gave us oil of joy for mourning will give you JOY.

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  119. God bless ur home Tito. I love ur faith and courage.

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  120. God is your Strength and Muscle. Thank you for sharing this.

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  121. Oh I praise the Lord for your life!
    Thank God for this testimony.
    I can't say I know how you feel but I can assure you that God doesn't fail.
    I don't know you sweetie.
    But I know that a bigger testimony is coming.
    ALLELUIA!!!
    Be strong!

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  122. Read this yesterday!! God Bless You Tito for sharing!!.....would never forget Job 13 :15

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  123. So touching and inspiring..... God Will surprise you.

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  125. Brought me to tears, i have been trying to conceive for a while... but your FAITH and TESTIMONY inspired and quickened FAITH in me. May the Lord comfort u and bless us all with beautiful children

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  126. Aww so touching i had to read it end,u will smile vry soon God will bless u wt more children in jesus name

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  127. Very painful experience u had dear..I can't imagined kinda pain n trauma I felt wen I HD a blighted ovum,but God never abandons his children,Just keep on having Faith and Trusting in him,Thank God for the wonderful Husband he's blessed us with.By dz tym next year we'd b Having n Carrying our Healthy Twins, A Boy n A Girl IJN AMEN..

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  128. As I read this Heart felt write up. I Cried and all I could do was kneel and thank God for my children. I am grateful.

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  129. God Bless Our Homes..

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  130. Hmmm so touching and inspiring! Take heart dear

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  132. OMG Bolatito, she was my senior in OIS, and was nice.

    Im so sorry to hear about your loss dear, but i see that God is about to surprise you with the oil of joy.

    Stay strong my dear, God bless your marriage.

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  133. OMG Bolatito, she was my senior in OIS, and was nice.

    Im so sorry to hear about your loss dear, but i see that God is about to surprise you with the oil of joy.

    Stay strong my dear, God bless your marriage.

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  134. OMG Bolatito, she was my senior in OIS, and was nice.

    Im so sorry to hear about your loss dear, but i see that God is about to surprise you with the oil of joy.

    Stay strong my dear, God bless your marriage.

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  135. i read this and i was so ashamed of myself. why didnt i just have faith like u. you are one strong woman my dear. thanks for shareing. i join my faith with yours dat by dis time next year, we will both be carrying our bundles of joy. God is a God of restoration. it is settled. i am so relaxed right now. thanks for sharing.

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  136. U inspire me and i must say u are courageous. Your faith is so strong n i pray that because u believe so much in God, he will show forth for u, d battle u lost will be d last u will ever experience. I see God blessing u in double fold n so shall it be. Amen!!!

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  137. This literally put me in tears,itz so sad n emotional,ur faith n courage z awesome maam,nd its certain God has huge plans for u in d future

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  138. God be with you n ur husband. Ladies for a longer hair care tips visit www.starryviv.blogspot.com

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  139. Bolatito, I am so so inspired by this. I was just meditating on the word Faith today and I can boldly say that your experience has summed it all for me. Even though the fig tree does not blossom, yet I will praise Him. God is God by Himself. Thank u for sharing this

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  140. Yahweh our God will turn ur sorrows into joy dear sister....u r indeed a strong woman.I just cnt imagine ur pain..it is well..may God comfort every woman goin through ds..our prayers r wt u..

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  141. I admire your courage an faith dear! I wish you double for your troubles... Amen

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  142. This post could not have come at a more appropriate time, thank you so much for sharing this Tito. I found out that I lost my 12 week pregnancy today and It shook my faith a great deal. I have been crying all day and asking God why this happened to me as it was my first pregnancy after a year and 3 months of marriage. This post just lifted my spirit and made me realise I have so many reasons to be thankful and hopeful.

    God bless you Bez and Titi, may this mark the beginning of a new level of testimonies in your lives, I wish you all the best

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  143. So touching and saddening. So sorry darling. In a very short time, God will visit you

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  144. This is the longest post have taken my time to read on this blog and it really is amazing. God bless you exceedingly ma and give u double for what you have lost

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  145. Take heart Bolatito, may d good Lord comfort you and give you double for your loss. It is well dear

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  146. Wow! This is so touching and also inspiring. I trust God to give you double for your loss. Isaiah 61:7

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  147. We serve a God that will fill a basket with water just to remind the bucket of His Supremacy. by this time next year , congratulatory messages shall flood around you because there will be cry of a miracle baby in your home in the mighty name of Jesus Christ Amen.

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  148. This is making mi cry. This is so heartfelt!

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  149. I'm all teary. I love you for blessing and encouragin thousands of women out there. Let God be God in our lives. It's well my sister. I can't imagine what you have been throu

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  150. I have never seen such a faith before in my life.

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  151. Touching write up. May the God whom you trust strengthen and abide with you. May He give you peace and bless you beyond your imagination in Jesus name. Amen.

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  152. May God continue to increase your faith, He will bless you and your husband with children that will be blessings to everyone they come across. His will, will always be done in your lives

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  153. GOD bless you and he will definitely surprise you and bless you beyond your expectations.AMEN..

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  154. I check Linda's site everyday but I have never left a comment. Your story made me cry today and I have not really been myself all day. I can't say I feel you because I have never lost a child. I have had a number of miscarriages and I know how that feels.

    God bless you my dear and bless your husband too. At God's time which would be sooner than you expect, He would bless you with what you want. All the hair you can imagine. I feel God prepared you for this because He wanted us to see His strength through you. It is well.

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  155. May God grant u the strenght to bear the loss. your baby was my birthday mate.

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  156. Handsome Bisong16 July 2015 at 22:38

    i have been down this road before and i can imagine what you had to go through.

    Praise him in the storm, no matter what.

    sometimes God calms the storm in your life, and sometimes he just rides with you. Either way he's still God.

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  157. hi Bola, i actually cried while reading this, not because i have ever lost a child, but because i know the pains it comes with carrying that bundle of joy for 9 months, am awed by your faith in god, and your story inspired me, to trust God more,i know without doubt that, God will prove Himself God in your situation, over and over again IJN, Amen. your next baby like someone said will also have beautiful hair and a very strong lung, that will enable him or her to cry out strongly when born IJN, Amen. thanks for sharing. FATHER LORD, FATHER JEHOVAH, MAY YOU CONTINUALLY BE GLORIFIED IN ALL OUR LIVES IJN. AMEN

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  158. Dear bolatito,my husband and I re lib readers but dis is my first time to comment.Lot has bin said by others but I tell u one tin.HE will give u double portion of wat u av lost just like I claimed Daddy Adeboye's prophesy when I lost a 6mnth old healthy pregnancy due to weak cervix and had anoda missed abortion shortly after but nw am. rejoicing more in d LORD after blessing me wit a beautiful daughter.Urs will come and d WoRLD will rejoice wit u.Peace in ur home.


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  159. I m eternally grateful to God who made you share Dis. God bless u. My faith level just shot up. Thanks n God bless. U will testify IJN.

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  160. Awwww! This is so so touching! Can't bliv Tito n my favourite naija artist Bez went tru dis. Am a die hard fan of Bez and I bliv u guyz will smile soon. #ZuciyaDaya

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  161. Awwww! This is so so touching! Can't bliv Tito n my favourite naija artist Bez went tru dis. Am a die hard fan of Bez and I bliv u guyz will smile soon. #ZuciyaDaya

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  162. "Until the doors of blessings open keep praising him in the hallway" Waoh! Bless God for give u peace. It is well with you n ur hubby.

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